1. Happiness is where you are now, or nowhere at all.
It’s not a new relationship, it’s not a new job. It’s not a completed goal, and it’s not a new car.
Until you give up on the idea that happiness is somewhere else, it will never be where you are.
2. Quitting is for winners.
Contrary to popular opinion, quitting is for winners. Knowing when to quit, change direction, leave a toxic situation, demand more from life, give up on something that isn’t working and move on, is a very important skill that people who win at life all seem to have.
But don’t quit because it’s hard.
Quit because it sucks.
3. If they really wanted to, they would.
If you apply pressure, they’ll do what you want them to.
If you take the pressure off, you’ll see what they’d rather do.
Never waste your life fighting what someone would rather do.
Let them go. Move on. Do better.
4. Taking no risk is the biggest risk.
You have to risk failure to succeed.
You have to risk rejection to be accepted.
You have to risk heartbreak to love.
If you’re always avoiding risk, you’re risking missing out on life.
5. Call yourself out.
The most common reason why people keep making the same mistakes is because their insecure ego prevents them from taking responsibility for their own bullshit, their own toxic traits and their own mistakes.
6. Closure is your choice.
Closure isn’t an apology, or justice, or answers.
If the situation made you feel awful, seeking closure by reopening it is insanity.
Closure isn’t something htye can give you.
Closure is moving on. Closure is your choice.
7. If you’re happy alone, you’ll be happier together.
There is no type of affection that can fill the void of a person who doesn’t love themselves already.
There is no independence in dependency.
There is no personal security in attaching yourself to a secure person.
Until you have a healthy relationship with yourself, you won’t make healthy decisions about someone else
8. It’s not your job to fix damaged people.
Your responsibility to hep someone will never outweigh their responsibility to help themselves.
But, it’s worth asking yourself why you resonated so strongly with someone that so desperately needed “fixing” in the first place.
Often, our own toxic romantic and non-romantic attachments tell a story about an issue we have within ourselves.