It’s always good to be able to laugh at your own life; at the events, the people, the timing and such. Sometimes there’s an event that could easily anger or frustrate you but if you can find a way to laugh it off you do yourself and everyone else a favor — and preserve your blood pressure! I want to tell you a story about something that happened recently. I find it hilarious even though if I was someone else I might be quite upset.
I received an email from our RV Trader advert inquiring about our coach. That was good, I thought. But, as we had already committed the coach to PPL Motor Homes in Houston I wasn’t free to make a deal — so I sent the party to them.
The next day I got another email — directly from the person — and not via the RV Trader message system. I was buoyed because the person sounded seriously interested and I pursued the conversation.
Here is the story I got:
- They had a deal on another coach they were that supposed to take delivery on that day, but they liked ours better.
- They were pre approved for “X” amount would we consider that amount against our coach instead.
- “So and so” was their salesman at PPL but they were out of the office that day and they couldn’t get in touch.
The amount was doable but it was right at our conservative “low price” so I would have to do something if PPL were even to consider, and so I did.
The next morning I got a message saying there was a deal pending on our coach and the company would keep us posted. A offer to purchase had been received and the buyer was going to pay to have the coach inspected — the dealer would contact us after the inspection with the results. During the day there were several conversations with PPL — I have to say that they are really great about communication! Just top notch.
We were told that the ‘buyer’ was not actually approved for the amount that they wanted to borrow, but for a lower amount and a shorter term. But that was a moot point because the credit company could not verify an income stream — so the “pre-approval” wasn’t really a pre-approval at all.
Now — what I find so amusing about all of this is that the buyer would think that in the process of completing a transaction — and they had submitted a bona fide sales contract — that no one would pay attention to their misrepresentation — or to the fact that they had no income trail. How goofy did they think people are?
I had been careful about where to take the coach to have it sold. There are a LOT of consignment lots around the country. Some infinitely better (or should I say “worse”) than others. I suppose someone with a scammer’s heart might think they could sneak something through but PPL is a pretty big concern and they sell a lot of units — I was confident that they would handle our transaction in a businesslike and professional manner — which they did. But what of the guy making the offer? How naive is he?
If you remember that popular TV series House, M.D., the protagonist was prone to claim: “everybody lies.” His context was always in a diagnostic mode; how can a patient hope to be healed if he/she doesn’t tell their doctor what’s really going on in their life. But there are times that it seems — in real life — that everybody does lie.
I have no doubt that my own career which was too often filled with people eager to tell a fib for some reason or another has a lot to do with my avowed trust issues. I am a skeptic. I’ve been in positions to authorize warranty repairs and listened while owners made up fantastic stories about what happened to their product — when a simple chemical test had already laid the blame right at their feet — and they knew it. I have had dispatchers and customers and friends dream up doozies of stories to get something they wanted. Or to get me to do something they wanted. I’ve been the rube a few times; and I’ve dodged the proverbial bullet more than a few times. It’s all part of life. And life is a lot more fun when you can laugh at things. Which is what I did when I had the last phone conversation with PPL about this aborted sale.
There’s no sense getting upset. The “buyer” didn’t do himself any favors — he has no credibility with this dealer so he better not try to buy anything else from them. I’m out nothing. It might have been nice to have the coach sold in 10 days from the time we dropped it off, but it will still get done. I’m confident of that.
One of the things human deceit points out to me is that this world isn’t fair. People aren’t necessarily honest or noble. We all have a little graft and greed in our bones. Whether or not we exercise it is up to us. We can do so, and chances are that we can get away with it part of the time — maybe even all of the time if we’re a really good liar. But personally, I don’t want to live in a world where everyone lies. At least not all the time. I’m going to be who I am whether or not they are who they appear to be, or who they pretend to be.
One of the tricks in life remains living a life you can be proud of in spite of the way other people live. For me, it’s all about not expecting too much from people. If I keep my expectations low I’m less often disappointed, less often taken advantage of, and much happier.
We’ll get this job done — selling the RV. But I know one guy in particular that will not be the successful buyer. 🙂 Last laugh is on him.