Wow — we had a whole week of mostly sunny weather! It’s been so crummy down this month that friends who don’t regularly read my blog are expressing sympathy for how bad the weather has been here. I don’t know what the forecasters up North have been saying — but we’re still having a wonderful time. We knew what to expect and we’re getting it!
And a little bit of rain today is a nice chance to go grocery shopping. And do some more reading.
I’ve been noticing that there are numerous sites here at Ocala North RV Park that seem never to have RV’s in them. And yet our ‘row’ stays pretty full, consistently. Someone moves — the next evening the site is full again. I’m glad to see that this place has some consistent clientele even if it does make it hard to get an available site when you want/need one.
While we may have had some sunny weather no one has yet dared the water in the pool. The buoy line has made an appearance in the pool. When the water heater was malfunctioning the buoy line wasn’t even in the pool. So, someone thinks it’s getting close to being swim-able. But I guess we’re all chickens. If we end up leaving here at the end of the month we may never have made it into the pool.
Do you ever get stuck in a rut? I was telling Peg yesterday that I realized I’d gotten stuck in a masculine/testosterone-driven rut lately. Let me explain. We both enjoy our walks but she’s the more avid walker. I can easily get ‘stuck’ with a good book and not get out of my chair for a longer time than I should. With her, she needs her walks more regularly and she’s pretty good about making sure she gets them. And what happens is that being a good husband, I like to make her happy. So there is always this part of my back-brain that wants to please her.
Knowing that she likes her walks there are these parts of my psyche that say, I should plan something for us to DO whether or not I am the least bit inclined to do anything. Now we have a good relationship, and she will tell me when she has a hankering to go somewhere, or do something in particular. And, being the wife that I trained her to be ( a guy would get killed saying things like that! ) she’s used to my making spur of the moment decisions to go places or do things — so she likes a little fair-warning if I have something brewing; so “Do you have any plans for today” is more about her knowing whether she should plan something on her own or stay flexible. She isn’t hounding me about something to do — I know that. So then why do I have these guilt feelings that I’m not providing enough interesting stuff for her to do?
Sometimes I still can’t believe that she ever agreed with the whole RV’ing decision. This life was not something that we hoped for, planned for, and anticipated for decades before retiring. It was — in the grand scheme of things — something that we sort of fell into. We started out looking at vans and the next thing you know — about 4 months later — we owned a 32’ diesel pusher. I had always been the more camping oriented guy. She was always willing and she enjoyed herself but I don’t think she ever came up to me and said, “Why don’t we go camping this weekend?”
I should clarify something here. It’s our ‘thing’ to do everything we can together. We aren’t the kind of couple who are always going off on our own doing stuff separately. Oh — when we were working there were times that I had to travel for work — but once my work-a-day duties were done we were back to togetherness. We always talked about jobs where we could work together — and never found one — but togetherness was always our goal. So this RV life is just the thing for us — we have the opportunity to be together all the time if we choose.
But the reality of life is that it’s not my job, and it’s not her job, to keep the other amused. We both know that; but there are days when the ancient-male-prototype raises it’s head and says, “I have to make my wife happy; what can we do today.”
Yesterday we ‘did’ nothing (at least nothing worth writing about) and I actually got around to a couple small chores that I haven’t touched in months. They’ve been there waiting on my attention — and we’ve been too busy for me to think about them. “Busy” is a funny concept. A person can be busy without moving. And a person can be relaxing while being quite active.
If you’re thinking about RV’ing it’s worth your time to think about how you function as a couple (if indeed you are a couple). Some of our RV friends travel together separately. By that I mean that they occupy the same RV but they are always off and doing things independently. I’m glad that works for them. It doesn’t work for us. I’ve come to the conclusion that the process of how a couple decides on where to go can be far more complicated for other couples than it is for us. Because we aren’t into touristy activities all we want is a place to park with adequate square footage between us and our neighbor and temperatures within our preferred zones. We want to experience living in that area. We don’t care a lot about tourist attractions; but we do care about the same kind of goods and services you might avail yourselves of if you were longterm residents in the area.
The subject of togetherness is also a function of your RV. Togetherness takes on an entirely different context if you travel in a Roadtrek 190 than if you travel in a Newmar 45’. Space makes a huge difference in how much time you spend ‘together’ in an RV.
You know, we bought this 40 footer because we wanted more space but I’ll confess to you that even though I have that office in the back of the coach, most of the time I’m using the dining table at which to write. I love that office — but I love being in sight of my wife even more.
I had an uncle, Ralph was his name. When he and aunt Helen built their house he insisted on a floorplan where he would be able to sit in the living room — in his favorite chair — and look over the top of his evening newspaper and see his wife whether she was in the kitchen, the dining room, or the living room. And that was just the kind of house he built. Sometimes cute little things like that mean a lot to people and just because you go-a-RV’ing does not mean you have to give them up. You just have to think creatively about how to accomplish what you want.
Another ‘complication’ of RV’ing is that a lot of us have been 2-car families for years and the shock of going from the freedom and independence of being a two car family to being a one-car family (if you tow) or being just an RV family can come as real surprise. We were one of those families, and things like being able to go to the store while your partner is getting the other car serviced just can’t happen anymore. We’re glad we decided to tow our CR-V. That was a serious consideration when we were deciding what sort of RV’ing we wanted to do. We considered purchasing a Spinter conversion and getting along without a toad. And we considered a 5th wheel — and needing to drive around in a pickup truck whenever we wanted to run errands. For us, we’re happy we made the choice we did. The coach with a toad makes the best sense for us. Having a car made the transition from sticks & bricks to RV’ing easier.
Raincoats for Golf Carts
As a guy who doesn’t golf — I have to say I have been amused by all the raincoats for golf carts I see down here. Because of all the rain we’ve had it seems that most of the golf carts here at the campground have been fitted out with their ranger and I have to say I don’t know if I have ever paid attention to golf carts with raincoats before. I sure don’t remember them from S. Texas. With all the rain we had last year the rain must not be enough of a ‘thing’ that people down there bother with them — because I sure didn’t see any. Here — they are ubiquitous!
In any event — I’m glad for those who have them and need them. When we get to Highland Ridge this summer we’ll have a golf cart — but I know there won’t be any raincoat. sigh… I guess we’ll just have to get wet. 😀
Our friends Bob and Janice tell us that they are volunteering in Iowa at Saylorville. That’s a campground we stayed at on our way to Oregon. I hope they have a great time. We know other friends who are considering workamping for Amazon next year. As nice as it sounds to earn a bunch of money in a short time I’m afraid our days of considering something like Amazon are over. I know my legs won’t tolerate that much time on them. So, it’s nice to hear about their hopes and prospects but I’m glad to do something else.
That’s it for our Friday. Nothing special going on but we’re staying dry in spite of the severe weather for