I guess I’m in a particularly thankful mood of late.
One could say that I ought to be upset about our wonky slide topper — seemed we had gotten everything ‘fixed’ and we finally had the prospect of smooth sailing for a while and now that happens. But the reality is that maintenance is an ongoing reality and buying a 10 year old coach means that some things are going to need replacing. Maintenance is nothing to get upset about.
And, we are finally heading South. For the Winter.
We are much more the ‘Early Birds’ than the ‘Night Owls.’ I love sunrises and it seems as if (when we stay in this campground and in this particular site) that I want to photograph the sunrise every single morning. Maybe that’s because every single sunrise is different.
A few years ago some old geezer said to me that
Any day you wake up
on the right side
of the grass is a good day.
It seems that since hearing that I have embraced that idea even more than I had in my youth. I’ve never been one to stay sad or depressed for very long. Well, aside from one major even in my life. I’m pretty much happy all the time; or most of the time anyway…
I appreciate what we have, and the life we live. I never, in all my imagination, dreamt that retirement would be this much fun. When we were working I gave away a lot of years of productive labor to causes; at the time I pretty much thought (as unreasonable as it might have been — who says I have to be sensible all the time) that I would work until I couldn’t work anymore. Circumstances changed, Peggy needed to leave her job — for her sanity’s sake — and so we retired. When we ran the numbers and realized we could be comfortable and even take a few chances with our retirement life we were both surprised as heck. And maybe because we are living better dreams than we ever dreamt, we both wake up in the morning eagerly, looking forward to what most days have to offer us!
It doesn’t hurt that, now for example, we are in a nearly deserted park with beauty around us. We’re feeling healthy (regardless of what the reality may be). We’re happy to be together; and to spend time together. And we’re happy to meet new people and have new experiences every day.
That point about being together is one that’s particularly important for RV’ers to consider. There’s not a lot of places to hide in an RV. If you barely get along with your Significant Other then taking off in a rolling home is not going to make your co-existence any easier. It really helps if you have a good relationship, enjoy each other’s company, and take pleasure in similar kinds of activities/things. If one of you has something happen to them, the other is going to be right there to chime in and like it as well, or dislike it. In my case we just seem to fit each other really nicely.
After writing yesterday’s blog I thought to myself, “I hope Kathryn doesn’t feel that we think Milwaukee isn’t home any more.” The fact that this visit — with it’s doctor induced stress and it’s NeverCold induced stress was a sort of one-off experience. Oh, I’m not sure I’ll ever feel as if the climate of Milwaukee is welcoming again. But that’s just my little bugaboo, my phantasm, my little obsession. The fact is that being near her is always the most comfortable place to be. And Michael too.
What I am coming to appreciate more over time is how much Peg and I are changing, and have changed, through this experience. I guess I look out at some people and they seem to hold tighter and tighter to this world as they age. And I guess I feel, increasingly, as if I’m letting go of more and more things. I have my likes and dislikes, but I’m willing to tolerate more than I have been in the past. Which seems contradictory because as I age I also notice the foolishness and stupidity around me more than I once did. Or things and people are just getting more foolish and stupid. (Not sure about that perspective!)
We started out looking for a place. Now, the place is less important. Being who we are is and always has been our thing. But perhaps we never thought about it. Living life on our own terms — as much as possible — is what we’ve always wanted, and pretty much what we’ve always done. Perhaps me more than Peggy. She was the stable one in our life together. She was the one who stuck with a single employer for 33 years, and I was the one who kept finding new adventures. But still and all it was about being who we were and not pretending to be something else.
RV’ing is the best place to be who you are. On some levels there’s less pressure to conform. (Although if you really believe that you’re buying into RV myths that the reality of RV’ing will knock out of you in a big hurry!) RV’ing give you the impression of freedom! But we still have our budgets, our physical limitations, our lifelong habits.
For a week, or maybe a few weeks, I’m quite happy to have nothing much going on. Every morning Peg asks what I have on my agenda for the day, because I usually have an agenda for the day. But lately my answer has been bupkiss, zip, nothing! Which I’m quite happy with. It’s nice that there are ups and downs in life. Flurries of activity, downtimes, times to coast and times to trudge up the hill: variety is a cliche but that “spice of life” thing has some weight to it, and I’m enjoying every spicy bit.
Thanks for stopping by, and I’ll chat with you tomorrow.